“It felt as if everything was destroying, the breakdown happening within was unbearable. But it is after all the destruction only, something new emerges”
ANONYMOUS
This is the phase that we all experience many times in our life, the phase of substantial destruction within us.
What is Destruction?
The destruction that I am talking about is the demolition of our inner world. The breaking of long-held beliefs, things working totally against us, failures on implementing the common way of living (that was taught by others) and anything else that brings turmoil in your inner state of peace is something I like to include in destruction.
Destruction is something that happens with each and every human being many times over their lifetime. If one is smart enough to create a meaningful perspective, the same destructions won’t repeat again. However, if one pays no heed to the meaning and acts from a victim mentality (a person who fails to take responsibility for one’s self), the same patterns keep on repeating again and again.
What in the world makes me think those destructions are wonderful?
Am I crazy to call destructions wonderful? Not certainly!
Remember how snakes shed their skin? In a similar manner, it is very necessary to let go of the beliefs that do not take us ahead or hinder our growth in any way. We all know that in order for something new to emerge out of something old, it is very necessary that some kind of destruction happens so that the old structure is broken down and the space for new emerges.
We are normally hesitant to leave those old ways of living and thus destructions are a way of the universe to kick us, irritate us & make it so much uncomfortable that we are forced to leave it and move on to something else.
Isn’t something new, a wonderful thing?
How can we deal with it in a better way?
Destructions are a part and parcel of life and they are not going to be easy. Sorry, to say that but it is the truth. Because, it is a process of looking at yourself, looking at the parts you are damn afraid to look at. Here’s what I can do for you, I have created a tool kit which you can carry along during this journey which will help you in making it meaningful.
The components of this tool kit are:-
Always point inwards
“Your life begins to change the day you take responsibility for it”
During any kind of challenge in our life, it is very easy for us to blame somebody on the outside and relieve ourselves of the outcomes. Take responsibility and always point inwards about what decision, what belief or what action of yours brought you into this situation.
Self- Compassion
When we give ourselves compassion, we are opening our hearts in a way that can transform our lives.
When taking full responsibility for what is happening with you, you might feel overwhelmed at a times and end up blaming your own selves or feeling guilty. Learn to be compassionate towards your own self. It’s okay to make mistakes; it is a sign of being a human.
Emerging factor
“Every act of creation is first an act of destruction”
PABLO PICASSO
Let yourself ponder upon what is trying to emerge out of this situation that I need to focus on. The breaking down is there so that something new can emerge, and it is your perspective that will help that emergence make more fruitful. So, instead of complaining & acting miserable start finding the growth that the universe is trying to bring in your life.
MAY GOD BLESS YOU! ♥
